“A ship is safe in harbor, but that's not what ships are built for.” I didn't understand the magnitude of that statement then, but now I do!
Whether you are going to get married or divorced or move or have a
baby, whatever the change is, you and I both know, it will be scary, but it will be a life lesson, no matter how it turns out. Change can be a good thing. Have you ever thought about how you were raised, you know your upbringing? Does it really matter today? Sure, you may have been raised in a great, loving environment but is that going to help you today become a better person, a better parent, or to make more money?
In my opinion, not really. I think that what is important, is what we do now - the risks we take, the changes we make and the things we are willing to learn. Whether you had a great childhood or a bad childhood, it is indifferent to what you can do now and how you can create a better future. Just look at some of the people who came from broken homes or poor environments, who are extremely successful today (ie: Oprah Winfrey, Steve Harvey, Ralph Lauren, J.K. Rowling and more.)
Most people are afraid of change, of challenges, but they are essential to our human growth; without change, we are stagnant. Sure, making a move is scary, whether you are changing jobs, moving to a new neighborhood or a new town, making new friends, or starting a new job venture...whatever it is, it will be scary but without change, we do not grow.
In life there are never any guarantees, so why not take the leap of faith and follow your dreams? Why do we have to have the mindset that we must stay put, live in the same house forever, or live in the same town? Sure, I understand about stability for our children but in the same breath, if you want to make a better life for you and your kids, why not follow your heart and your goals?
It is important to remember, to have a plan, not to live your life as a "gypsy," (at least when you have kids, I mean,) but if you are holding back because you are scared...don't! We only have one life to live, so make it a good one and go for those challenges, go for those things that scare you. Those are the moments of human growth, when we learn and experience new things, new feelings, new people, new adventures.
If you have a dream or a goal, what are you waiting for? Don't say you are too old, or you can't because you have kids. There are a million examples out there of people who were in worse situations than you, who made a change and achieved their dreams. You can too! Sure, it might be a struggle, but the fact that you make the first step, the move to better yourself and your life, is success already.
YOU are the creator of your own consciousness, so create the kind of change you want in your life!
Like I read in an article in Forbes magazine, "Change is difficult, not changing is fatal."