The "tween" years are such a difficult time, especially if you have a daughter! It is so important to continuously try to bond, even when the "attitude" is there. Personally, I find this extremely difficult to do, but these tips I read helped to point out some important things to remember specifically, the "talk, talk, talk" advice. Sometimes it is so annoying to just talk and to have a one-way conversation.
Many times I ask my daughter how her day was, whether at school or at summer camp, and I always get the same two responses, either it's "boring" or just, "fine," with no details. That's when I begin the "teeth pulling" routine. I must admit, I suck at this! I always had the attitude that if you don't feel like talking, well, then don't talk, but now as the mother of a "tween, I recognize the importance of trying to bond with your child.
For me, for us, it's those few minutes that you would never expect, when we bond, or at least when I get some information, some stories, some gossip, complaints etc... It is the few moments she asks me to help her brush her long brown hair. It is the 5-10 minute car ride to school. It is the half-hour before bedtime when I get the most quality time. You know what, it may seem like only a few minutes of the day, but I'll take it! It all matters and it will count someday. It will make a difference.
Even if you feel that your "tween" is not listening, the positive news is that they are listening and you ARE bonding!